Being Your Own Psychologist
– Should we conclude events by drawing some kind of conclusions or presenting some kind of product such as a movie, or is it simply a process, so we come out of this event and enter a new process?
– This is a process that we go through daily. We select the most precious moments, the ones that are most useful for greater awareness, and make a movie out of them. The movie can even be several hours long because we were there for several months.
We collect all sorts of amusing incidents, special moments, their resolutions, and so on, and every person goes home with this movie.
Besides, every child should keep a diary. We give out special diary books to everyone and every child has to write in it every day. It should contain specific graphs: my attitude, their attitude, I am this way and they are different, something special that happened, how to solve a given situation, and so on. That is, a person must conduct psychological self-monitoring, and he must record it daily. After all, we are studying human nature.
The idea is that what they write will be read out to everyone. But that should happen gradually, not right away. We are becoming psychologists. We are working on self-attainment, and the diary has to reflect that.
A person has to come out of this process with a deeper understanding of who is sitting inside of him, how he should relate to the world—from the perspective of the little animal that’s inside of me or from the viewpoint of the person I want to nurture within?
The writing should be done literally every day and be one to two pages long. It should include paragraphs marked ahead of time that describe specific things.
– Should a child fill out this diary throughout the day, or at the end, before going to sleep?
– I don’t think it should be done before going to sleep. With children, everything changes very quickly. They are under such explosive inner impressions that we cannot expect them to accumulate all of it until the end of the day and only then to let it out on paper. We have to give them the opportunity to write in it little by little.
– How intense should these events be? Sometimes it’s necessary to pause in order to really feel something. How packed should the day be with activities?
– It depends on the extent to which the environment excites us. A pause might be necessary, or more precisely, a change in activity. And it’s possible that some of the groups might need a daytime nap, or some kind of breather, for example, to simply sit down to watch some kind of program, to do a calmer type of activity.
But in principle, I think everything depends only on the environment. Children can digest enormous amounts of information, absorb it, and adapt to anything. They don’t grow tired of it. A child can play 24 hours a day. Everything has to be built in the form of a game. Then he won’t get tired. He will only have to alternate these games.