A “servant” is called a “giving force.” A “handmaid” is called a “receiving force.” A Zivug [coupling] is the force that connects the receiving force with the force of giving so it will be receiving in order to bestow. An “offshoot” is that by which one is rewarded with a soul, which is a part of God above, meaning that the person feels it.
The Creator makes the Zivug, meaning that the Creator helps the receiving force yield to the giving force and makes it able to receive in order to bestow.
When a person makes a Zivug, meaning by a person, without the Creator’s help, no offspring will come out of the Zivug because they cannot connect. Therefore, one becomes lame and one becomes blind, as Raba said, “I beseech you, do not inherit a double Hell.”
“A man and a woman, if they are rewarded, the Shechina [Divinity] is between them.” We should ask, If they are opposite, how can there be peace between them?
It is specifically when one becomes worthy, when he inverts reception into bestowal, called “receiving in order to bestow,” there is peace between them. Otherwise, they are in dispute or that one yields before the other. Yielding is not regarded as love in wholeness, for the one who yields always waits for when he will regain the power of control.