Truth be told, we demand of our children what we ourselves couldn’t achieve.
Because we’re incomplete, we’re trying to complement ourselves through our children.
This is why we sometimes put so much pressure on them.
The solution is to try to achieve wholeness by ourselves instead of demanding it from our children. This is precisely why the wisdom of Kabbalah was given to us.
If we achieve wholeness, or at least understand what it means and strive to achieve it, we will stop pressuring our children needlessly and will allow them to grow and develop as is best for them.