Children need to determine their own punishments; otherwise, there is no education, just punishment.
Also, under no circumstances should the punishment be a result of our emotions at that moment.
We must relate to the incident only later, at the designated time for it, just like in court, where a case is noted on one day and discussed on another day.
When discussing it, we examine the ego that suddenly awakened in the child, like a little devil, causing the child to do bad things. The child needs to understand it and be aware of the common work we are conducting together in relation to what happens within us.