True Changes or Make-Up?

Dr. Laitman's Answer: It has to be an inner attitude to another person: You have to care for them the way you previously cared for yourself. You should demand for the Upper Light to make your friend just as important as you deemed yourself in the past, egoistically, for your own sake.

Don't do anything artificially. We have to let the Upper Light do all the work. It makes the corrections. All we can do is ruin things! We don't have the strength or the understanding to do anything. Therefore, if we try to change, we only do so externally and artificially, and that is not correction.

Rabash gives an example using a parable about cats that were supposed to be trained to be noble and important waiters, in order to prove that it's possible to change one's nature. But when the cats saw running mice, they threw away their trays and rushed to catch them. We are the same: We perform externally beautiful changes until we blow up and violently jump on each other. These are certainly not the changes that Kabbalah speaks about.

Idleness Is Already Evil

Question: What does it mean to cause harm to my friend?

Dr. Laitman's Answer: If it's a friend in a Kabbalistic group, then I cause harm just by not worrying about uniting with him because I thereby drill a hole in our common "boat," our common spiritual vessel. Thus, by being idle I already cause him harm.

If I am not working to increase our shared spiritual Kli, or even if I am just a little bit lazy, I inflict harm on others. However, it seems to us that if we're not beating someone up, killing them, or stealing from them, then everything is ok and what else can anyone ask of us? We don't understand that we can inflict harm even while being perfectly "good citizens." Yet, this is insufficient in spirituality. In spirituality, if I don't spend every moment worrying about how to create a common spiritual vessel, then I don't have a good attitude to others. The moment I forget about the worry about the common Kli, I become an offender.

There is no intermediate state, but only good or evil. That is the law of the Upper System of our connection.